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  • Stephen Carter

Writing as a Path to Conquering Trauma and Walking Forward

Lady journaling

One of my clients shared the following post (see below) after a recent conversation about her healing journey. This lady, we’ll call her Carol (not her real name), suffered years of physical and emotional abuse from family members, an abusive husband, a romantic confidence swindler, and horrendous professional bullying as well.

3 Reasons Carol's Message Matters

I share this message for three reasons:

First, it’s an example of how journaling can help give order, shape and deeper understanding to your experiences and emotional pain.

If you’re not journaling, I encourage you put pen to paper or - if you prefer - fingers on computer keys and let your feelings flow and transform into words. Making audio or video recordings are also options as is using a simple bullet journal format.

Second, Carol’s commentary illustrates how writing can help lead you through the dark night of the soul and point you toward an acceptance of what is and what can be.

Third, Carol’s message serves as a reminder there are people in your life who care and will support you. As the song lyrics go, “I get by with a little help from my friends”.

Who in your life is waiting and willing to offer loving, caring support?

FREA Will Help You Learn to Journal

If you would like help learning to journal, please email us through our “Contact” page at In addition, there are multiple resources on the FREA site for emotional first aid and other support.

An important caveat: Journaling is not a replacement for appropriate therapy from a qualified practitioner.

Let’s now “listen” to Carol’s inner thoughts expressed through her writing. This message is shared with her permission.

Carol’s Message

"I am finally learning to accept the damage of ideals that became obsolete and caused me to be betrayed by evil forces, but like the wounded horse, I am learning to get up and walk on my own again. Hard to do, but the peace and freedom is worth it. Better walk alone in the present, than to keep going on with a past that is gone and everything with it.

The hardest thing to do is take responsibility for past mistakes, but the peace is worth doing the work of confronting past father and job demons.

And my closest childhood friend also helps, because she understands my background with my family problems, and tells me the truth. She is my "Sancha Panza" and grounds my Don Quijota weakness in dying for dreams and false illusions (all from the wounded abandoned inner child); so she is still there for me in my changed reality, which is a huge comfort and validates all of my past suffering in dying for unreachable ideals and goals the career could never fulfill, but it is better to deal with the truth later than never.

As hard as it is to accept reality, the old adage is still true, "The truth shall set you free." And I learned late in life that some of these issues and doubting myself had to do with childhood neglect, rejection and abandonment. But even orphans have to survive, and walk on; and I am still walking forward."

Stephen Carter

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